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Monday, January 31, 2011

Divorce and Having Babies

Maybe it's the mommy in me, but ... I keep equating this whole divorce process to having a baby. Strange, but true. Think about it.

Through blood, sweat and tears, you push your way through the most excruciating pain in your life ..... to only encounter the most wonderful outcome ..... eventually ....

(I cannot believe I'm going to post these photos, but this is my therapy, right?!)


Right now, I'm in the "maternity leave" stage of the process. I'm ready to start my new life, but can't. I'm pretending that this is my new life. And, it isn't. I'm doing what I can do to survive and taking it day-by-day. I've lost sleep (but, am sooo over that!). Uncontrollable circumstances are causing me to be out of my normal routine. I am happy and excited to move on, but am exhausted at the same time.

I'm using my running, just like I did after my second pregnancy ... to bounce back. To do something for myself. Something that makes me feel good about myself. Something to blow off steam and frustration. My running helps me set goals and makes me do what needs to be done to achieve them.

Those babies eventually grow up. They mature. They learn. I am growing up, maturing and learning, too. This process has been amazing and I am learning so many things about myself every single day. Oddly enough, it has all been a blessing. Just like those babies.


Every day may not be good,
but there's something good in every day.
~Author Unknown


Happiness is an attitude.
We either make ourselves miserable,
or happy and strong.
The amount of work is the same.
~Francesca Reigler



The past can't see you,
but the future is listening.
~Terri Guillemets

36 comments:

  1. Wow, you have such an amazing attitude!

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  2. ((hugs)) to you on this unexpected journey of yours. (I equated training for a marathon to pregnancy and labor, so I'm good for the seemingly odd comparison.)

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  3. I love your outlook on what is going on! I know you have the strength to triumph over what life is like right now!

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  4. I was also a single mother of 2 and found running to be a great release for myself as well. Attitude is everything, keep looking toward your GREAT future and you will have a GREAT future.

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  5. It took my divorce (4 years ago) for me to discover my true passions in life and find out what living life was truly about (I must have been coasting through before and not realized it). Great things have happened since then, and it sounds like you are discovering they will and are happening for you. I had NO CLUE how I was going to survive and provide for my kids (I had been a stay at home mom who did daycare for 10 years before the divorce). But, things really do come full circle, you become this amazingly strong (emotionally & mentally) person and you do what needs done. Our kids are depending on us! It sounds like you are on the right path by taking care of yourself both inside and out. It's refreshing to see others that see that out of every bad/hard situation something good really does come. Look forward to more "single mom updates".

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  6. What a great post! You are amazing! Keep those positive vibes coming!

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  7. Divorce was the most awful thing - but my life is so much better on the other side of it. Hang in there - love the attitude!

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  8. Great attitude, girl. I am so proud of you. Keep your chin up and all will be good!

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  9. Amazing what running does for us! I consider running as "saving me".....coupled with gratitude for the little things in life have made me a better person through rough times. You are doing great! I wrote about almost the same identical topic on my blog a few months ago

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  10. Jamie - were you 12 when you had Paigey? LOL. You are a beautiful person inside & out. Keep that great attitude and don't forget you are a strong, strong woman!

    NP

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  11. "Happiness is an attitude.
    We either make ourselves miserable,
    or happy and strong.
    The amount of work is the same."

    love that quote. :-)

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  12. You have the most amazing attitude ever! Keep your chin up and keep doing what you are doing! You are doing great!! I love, love, love the pictures of you kissing Little Dude! So stinking cute!!!

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  13. u r a strong and beautiful woman! i can do anything you set your mind too!
    keep up the great work and keep smiling!

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  14. Those are beautiful pictures - you look lovely.

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  15. Jamie, you are such a strong amazing woman in so many ways! :)

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  16. Great analogy and you're doing so well with it all!

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  17. What a great post. You have such a positive way of looking at this, I just know you're going to be just fine. :) Stay strong!

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  18. Hugs to you! You have such a great outlook on your situation! Just keep your eye on the future and remember that it is ok to have bad days...it is part of the process and will only make you stronger in the end. You are doing amazing!

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  19. You are such an ispiration to us all! I wish you nothing but peace, love and happiness in the future. :)

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  20. Sending you lots of love right.this.minute. I love all of the pictures with you and your precious children. Warm fuzzies!

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  21. You are so pretty!!!! And your kids are so cute!!

    Hang in there... and you do have a wonderful attitude about it all!

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  22. Oh, I didn't realize you are going through a divorce. You have an absolutely amazing outlook and I am wishing youall the best during this transition.

    As other bloggers have stated you and your children are GORGEOUS and so POSITIVE--you will no doubt come out on top of this!

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  23. As someone living through a separation, I just found your words so comforting. Thank you for sharing your personal journey...

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  24. Awesome attitude! It will get better...

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  25. Love your attitude Jamie. Just take it day by day. I'm wishing you all the best as you move forward on this new path.

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  26. you've got a great mindset, hang in there : )

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  27. There's definitely always something to be learned through all we endure. You are doing great, just keep a positive attitude, take care of yourself and take care of those two little treasures. I know you'll find your path and the journey will smooth out for you in time.

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  28. You are doing completely awesome in dealing with everything! I am super impressed!

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  29. Wow what a great realistic attitude :) BRAVO!!!

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  30. You have such a wonderful attitude!

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  31. Once you get through the divorce you'll be the same person only different. Make sense? Same as having a baby.

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  32. best of luck to you! you sound like an amazing girl with a lot of spunk!! i am your latest follower!xoxo

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  33. One day at a time and positivity will get you through! And it will model for your children!

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